How to Support a Loved One with Social Anxiety

Some people make friends everywhere they go. They have a natural ease with new people. You may be one of them — someone who enjoys large crowds, makes conversation with strangers easily, and always knows the right thing to say.

But for many, social situations feel overwhelming. They may overthink small talk, painstakingly reflect on every conversation, and feel physically and emotionally drained by social interactions.

Having a loved one to lean on makes a world of difference when you have social anxiety. If you have someone in your life with social anxiety, here are six tips to help support them from Caroline Bjorkman, DO, at Mind Space Wellness, LLC, in Fort Lee, New Jersey, or the Upper West Side area of Manhattan in New York City. 

1. Understand that social anxiety isn’t just “being shy”

It’s a real and often overwhelming condition that can make even simple social interactions feel impossible. Recognize that your loved one’s anxiety isn’t something they can just “snap out of.” 

Instead of trying to push them into situations they’re not ready for, let them take things at their own pace. 

2. Don’t minimize or brush off their worries

When someone with social anxiety opens up to you, sharing thoughts or fears they’ve been carrying for a long time, it’s a big deal. 

Instead of offering solutions or dismissing their concerns, simply listen. Let them know you hear them and that it’s okay to feel the way they do. Sometimes, just feeling understood can ease anxious thoughts and feelings.

3. Respect their boundaries 

Encourage your loved one to step out of their comfort zone, but not at the expense of their mental health. Trust their judgment if they say they’re not ready for an event or a situation. Respecting their boundaries builds trust and helps them feel safe around you.

4. Include them, even if they say no

People with anxiety often try to avoid social situations, but that doesn’t mean they always want to stay home. If you have a loved one with social anxiety, make the effort to invite them out and include them in conversations. Sometimes, a nudge is what they need to open up and feel comfortable.

5. Celebrate their victories, no matter how small

What might seem like a minor step to you — like making a phone call or attending a small gathering — can be a huge achievement for someone with social anxiety. 

Celebrate these moments and acknowledge their courage. Positive reinforcement can help them feel more confident over time.

6. Encourage them to seek professional help 

Most people with anxiety can benefit from professional support. At Mind Space Wellness, LLC, we offer personalized therapy and medication management for people with anxiety and related conditions, like attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) and depression. 

Call our office today or schedule an appointment online to help your loved one get the care, support, and guidance they need to live more freely with social anxiety.